Tag: Infertility

Infertility Is Not Something To Be Ashamed Of

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I struggle with Infertility. For a long time, that phrase made me feel ashamed. I thought there was something wrong with me as a woman because I couldn’t do the very thing I was created to do, carry a child. I would dread the inevitable and highly personal question, “When are you guys going to have a baby?” At the beginning of our marriage, I would deflect it with something about us wanting to enjoy being a couple. Then as the years progressed I would answer with, “Once Matt is finished with school.” Once those excuses didn’t apply anymore I’d simply say, “oh you know, one day.” Each time that question was aimed at me it was like a dagger to my heart and I felt like they must know my dirty little secret, I couldn’t have a baby.

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When Is It Time To Accept Infertility?

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Infertility is all consuming. The question around when to accept it and move on is one of the hardest a couple has to go through.

There is an inner battle that goes on for a woman struggling with Infertility. That battle is whether to accept the fact that she won’t ever carry and birth her own child or to keep trying. This is not to be mistaken with the feeling of despair and just not wanting to feel it anymore. One is an acceptance of what is not meant to be and the other is giving up because the pain is too much to bear. One choice over the other does not make a woman stronger or weaker, it just means she has chosen to remove the pain of Infertility the best way she knows how. Today I’m speaking of acceptance .

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